Ways to Achieve “Mutual Consent” in Social Interactions According to Qur’anic Teachings (مقاله علمی وزارت علوم)
درجه علمی: نشریه علمی (وزارت علوم)
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چکیده
The level of satisfaction of individuals with life is one of the important criteria in the ideal lifestyle, and "mutual satisfaction" is one of the crucial manifestations of "satisfaction with life." Speaking of "satisfaction" in bilateral relationships implies the presence of both "Rāḍī" (well- pleased) and "Marḍīyy" (pleasing) aspects for both sides of these relationships. Considering the presence or absence of these two qualities in interpersonal relationships, three conceivable assumptions are possible: 1) Both parties are "Rāḍī" with each other, hence each party is also "Marḍīyy" with the other; 2) Only one of the parties is pleased with the other, therefore one is "Rāḍī" and the other is "Marḍīyy"; 3) Both parties are not "Rāḍī" with each other, hence neither is "Marḍīyy" with the other. The best case is the first assumption, and the worst case is the third assumption. When we find ourselves in the third situation, we must strive to at least transform it into the second assumption and then elevate the second assumption to the first assumption. But how is this transformation possible? The present study suggests that in one's interactions with others, instead of expecting to find oneself "Rāḍī," one should try to "Rāḍī" the other and let oneself become "Marḍīyy" with the other; because in order to be "Rāḍī" with the other, we do not have control over all the factors that lead to satisfaction, as we cannot determine or change the behaviors of the other party according to our desires. However, everyone has the choice and actions are up to them and can act according to the desires of the other party. If both parties in all bilateral relationships follow this recommendation, they will reach the ideal situation (the first assumption), which means being "Rāḍī and Marḍīyy at the same time."Ways to Achieve “Mutual Consent” in Social Interactions According to Qur’anic Teachings
“Life satisfaction” is one of the ideals of each person and community to achieve “individual comfort” and “social peace”. Since human being is a social being, mutual satisfaction between people who interact with each other is one of the most important factors for the fulfillment of “life satisfaction”. When speaking of “satisfaction” as a descriptive word for two-sided relations, one side is described as “well-pleased” (Arabic: RAZI) and the other is described as “well-pleasing unto him/her” (Arabic: MARZI). Therefore, three assumptions can be considered for each mutual relation: (1) both sides are well-pleased (razi) with one another, so each side is also described as well-pleasing (marzi) unto the other side; (2) one side is well-pleased and the other side is unpleased. This assumption practically is divided into two sub-assumptions (i.e., in one assumption, A is pleased and B is unpleased, and in the other assumption B is pleased while A is unpleased), so one side is also well-pleasing unto the other and not the vice versa; (3) both sides are unpleased, so none of them is described as well-pleasing unto the other one too. It is obvious that the first assumption is the best one and the third is the worst. We must try to replace the third position with the second one and then the second position with the first one. But the question is how it is possible.