زینب آقاگلی زاده

The concept of "Differentiation of self" in Bowen’s Family Systems Theory, regarded as the cornerstone of mental health, refers to individuals’ ability to separate rationality from emotion and to maintain balance between individuality and togetherness. Considering the lack of an indigenous model in family psychology, the present study aims to articulate a "Differentiated Human" model based on the teachings of the Holy Qur’an. The research method is "Thematic Analysis" with a qualitative approach. The study population consisted of all Qur’anic verses, with a focus on authoritative Shi‘i exegeses, especially al‑Mīzān . After purposeful note‑taking, the data were analyzed using three‑stage coding in MAXQDA software. The findings showed that "Piety," as a process of self‑regulation, is the overarching theme of Qur’anic differentiation, which is actualized through " Furqān " (the faculty of discernment). At the intrapersonal level, this model includes cognitive components (self‑awareness, faith‑based rationality) and behavioral components (emotion regulation, patience, and trust in God). At the interpersonal level, through an assertive communication style (based on authenticity, clarity, unconditional respect, and empathy) and boundary management (rejecting fusion and emotional cutoff), it establishes a balance between independence and intimacy. Ultimately, the results indicate that the Qur’anic model, by adding monotheistic and innate dimensions to psychological components, provides a rich framework for Islamic counseling and elevates the path of growth from mental health to spiritual perfection.